by coming home to yourself and your domain using the Wheel of Consent.
“An empowering tool that resonates with so many aspects of my personal and professional journey.”
Anna, 2025
Have you ever said yes when you meant no?
Not because you were forced… but because saying no felt difficult or awkward. or likely to upset someone.
Or perhaps the opposite: you’ve spent years not quite knowing what you want… not really feeling your own desires clearly enough to name them, let alone ask for them.
Most of us were never taught to know our own domain. We were taught to be agreeable, to be helpful, to be good. We learned to override what we actually felt in order to keep the peace, belong, be loved.
And somewhere along the way… we lost the thread back to ourselves.
This course you that thread back… guides you back HOME to yourself.
The Wheel of Consent is a framework developed by Dr Betty Martin, one of the most respected somatic educators working in consent, touch, and relational dynamics today. It maps four fundamental positions in any interaction: Taking, Allowing, Serving, and Accepting… each with a gift at its centre and a shadow at its edge.
Over six weeks, we bring the Wheel into the body. We explore your nervous system and what happens to your capacity to choose when you feel unsafe. We move through practices that help you feel the difference between a full yes and a performed one… between a genuine no and a frozen one.
By the end, you will have a completely different relationship with giving, receiving, asking, and saying no. Not as concepts, but as lived, felt experience.
“This course helped me recognise patterns I hadn’t noticed before and experiment with change. The ‘I want’ game was hard because it felt rude… until I heard a mother in a shop say ‘I want doesn’t get.’ Language and social conditioning is so important. I’ve been recognising what I want, writing and saying it out loud. It led me to realise a job I was ‘willing to do’ actually isn’t what ‘I want.’ It felt brave to course-correct, be truthful and advocate for what I really want. I imagine this new awareness of ‘I want’ and ‘no’ will ripple in the next 12 months.”
Anonymous, 2025
This course is for you if…
… you find yourself saying yes on autopilot, and only realising afterwards that you didn’t actually want to.
… you struggle to name what you want, and even when you know, asking for it feels vulnerable or exposing.
… your no comes out as an apology, an excuse, a long explanation… or doesn’t come out at all.
… you give and give and give, and then feel resentful or exhausted, and aren’t quite sure how you got there.
… you’ve experienced interactions (intimate, creative, professional) where something felt off but you couldn’t name what it was.
… you want to understand consent as a living, embodied practice that changes how you move through every relationship in your life.
“So much! I love how it was a space to self-reflect and it felt we were in this together. You’ve created a fantastic community feel, Ella. We were simply being. I’ve had quite a few powerful realisations around what I vocalise and what I don’t, and where I do and don’t serve my truth.”
No. Every partner practice has a full solo adaptation. You can move through all six weeks entirely on your own.
This course explores consent, touch, and relational dynamics, which can bring things to the surface. I encourage you to move through at your own pace, to honour whatever arises, and to let your therapist or mental health professional know you are taking this course if you are currently working with one. This work sits alongside professional support, not instead of it.
You are invited to complete in 6 weeks (If you do you unlock a 121 and get to keep the course for life), if not, you will have access for 6 months.
Yes. If you work with people in creative, relational, or somatic spaces, the Wheel of Consent will change how you hold space and how you understand the dynamics in every room you facilitate.
Of mixed Nigerian and white British heritage, with 20+ years in movement, 10+ years as a coach, I draw from ancestral and land traditions, embodied movement and bodywork practices.
(Check out my training and lineage above)
I acknowledge my privileges, honour the cultures these practices come from, and share with you not as an authority, but someone transformed by these teachings.
